Kindness

Posted on May 5, 2016 in Self-Help, Thoughts

I have never regretted being kind.

To hold kindness as a practice important as any other means being kind, not just when it’s convenient; not just when you are with your friends; not just when things are going your way; not just when you feel well; and not just to people’s faces. It is about being kind to the irrational driver who cut you off; the dog that won’t stop barking; the store clerk who is being short with you; the mosquito buzzing in your ear; the late bus driver who messed up your plans; the family member who won’t change; the you who dropped the ball with your diet this week.

Being kind in your heart is not about the way you handle the jerks that come your way; being kind in your heart is about seeing all beings with enough understanding and compassion so that you aren’t seeing anyone as a jerk… You aren’t seeing a jackass, you are seeing an individual who is in pain; you aren’t seeing an idiot, you are seeing someone who is confused; you aren’t seeing an asshole, you are seeing someone who is suffering.

This way of being is really about shedding the lenses we’ve come to adopt – the lenses of judgement, fear, expectation and resentment through which we see the world. It is about getting back to an eye that is clear, an eye that is pure love… an I that is one with all.

In this space we find a reservoir of patience and understanding. And in this space, kindness flows.
.pema-chodron

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